I have been think about marriage and about how many marriages fail. It is like 50% I stopped to think why that increase now vs. 100 years ago. And I realize that our culture has changed. We have turned into a people that wants things "here and now; not five minutes later" (fast food, drive thru banking, microwave dinners, etc) Quick-n-easy. "If it breaks get a new one". People don't have to work as hard or wait as long for the basic needs. We get upset in fast food places when we have to wait five minutes for our food to come.Bottom line - We are impatient and lazy.
Marriage is hard work. And too many people don't want to realize that, until it is too late and the spouse is walking out the door. The people that don't want to do the work and invest in their marriage are not going to have that dream marriage like everyone wants. That is when that children (if they get that far) the are left to pick up the broken pieces. I have been there and I do not wish that on my worst enemy. It was hard and it was only the Lord that got me through that.
My mission of this blog is not to make people mad but to help people realize marriage does have great joys and that you can have the "dream marriage" but it is work. You can have it if you really want it and pray for the marriage. If you ask any older married couple in church how they stayed married for so long, they will tell you GOD, Pray and WORK!
Some Steps to success:
To learn what real love is. I will give you the answer. GOD. How many people do you see giving their son (that did nothing but love sinners) to save people that hate, murder, curse God, worship false gods, cheat, lie,etc.; so that we might have a chance to go to heaven, choose God and live forever. That's love. If we can love our spouse even 1% of how much God loves us. Our marriages would be changed. The divorce rate would drop.
To realize that with God we change. He can change us to be more compassionate; filled with grace, and mercy; learn that are not always right and don't always have to be; learn to first change ourselves to be more lovable.
To realize that Prayer does change everything but the catch is that we have to wait for it and it will not happen over night. Praying together and having the same goals will sometimes increase the speed. (at least it seems that way to me)
Getting closer to God will in turn make you closer to your spouse.
Have Goals.
I love my husband more than I did when I married him and I did not think that would be possible. I loved him so much then and even more now. I praise God for him everyday. I love you Matt.
I am in it until the end!!!!! I refuse to give up and I know that it is not always going to be a bed of roses and all peachy. But it only through those tough times, is when you then realize I have it and I am so blessed! Amen!
Marriage is hard work. And too many people don't want to realize that, until it is too late and the spouse is walking out the door. The people that don't want to do the work and invest in their marriage are not going to have that dream marriage like everyone wants. That is when that children (if they get that far) the are left to pick up the broken pieces. I have been there and I do not wish that on my worst enemy. It was hard and it was only the Lord that got me through that.
My mission of this blog is not to make people mad but to help people realize marriage does have great joys and that you can have the "dream marriage" but it is work. You can have it if you really want it and pray for the marriage. If you ask any older married couple in church how they stayed married for so long, they will tell you GOD, Pray and WORK!
Some Steps to success:
To learn what real love is. I will give you the answer. GOD. How many people do you see giving their son (that did nothing but love sinners) to save people that hate, murder, curse God, worship false gods, cheat, lie,etc.; so that we might have a chance to go to heaven, choose God and live forever. That's love. If we can love our spouse even 1% of how much God loves us. Our marriages would be changed. The divorce rate would drop.
To realize that with God we change. He can change us to be more compassionate; filled with grace, and mercy; learn that are not always right and don't always have to be; learn to first change ourselves to be more lovable.
To realize that Prayer does change everything but the catch is that we have to wait for it and it will not happen over night. Praying together and having the same goals will sometimes increase the speed. (at least it seems that way to me)
Getting closer to God will in turn make you closer to your spouse.
Have Goals.
I love my husband more than I did when I married him and I did not think that would be possible. I loved him so much then and even more now. I praise God for him everyday. I love you Matt.
I am in it until the end!!!!! I refuse to give up and I know that it is not always going to be a bed of roses and all peachy. But it only through those tough times, is when you then realize I have it and I am so blessed! Amen!
1 comment:
Tammy, thanks for that post, and thanks for your example to me. I love you!!!
talk to you real soon!
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